When You’re Cutting Staff, Spending $100,000 on a “Marriage Counselor” Makes No Sense

•April 30, 2013 • 4 Comments

Ok friends, here’s the dirty little secret nobody wants to acknowledge in this whole Policy Governance debacle…..

The UUA is NOT in policy governance.

The reason why the UUA is not in policy governance…the President of the UUA is ELECTED, not appointed.

For those of you who know policy governance, you know that what makes it work is the board’s power to hire and/or fire the Chief Executive. It is the cornerstone. Take away that power, policy governance does not work.

Anybody look at the UUA recently? (yes, all sarcasm intended)

The President is elected and does not answer to the board in the traditional sense.  So if one takes out the cornerstone of policy governance and then tries to implement policy governance, chaos ensues.

Anybody look at the UUA recently??

So now the board has taken $100,000 from the endowment to hire a marriage counselor (they are calling it a consultant).

Let me see if I have this straight…there isn’t enough money to keep some really valuable employees…there isn’t enough money to keep the MFC and RSCCs from having backlogs…there isn’t enough money to do some real church planting…but there is enough money to hire a marriage counselor.

Anybody look at the UUA recently???

The UUA Board has sanctioned the spending of $100,000 to hire a consultant to help bridge the divide between the Board and the Administration/Staff.

Well…I can consult them for a whole lot less.

STOP PRETENDING YOU ARE IN POLICY GOVERNANCE

See…much cheaper.

Now can we get about doing God’s business of preaching the gospel of love and not fear; hope and not desolation; faith and not despair?

 

[special thanks to my friend, L, for calling the consultant a marriage counselor]

To Go To A UU Church on Easter Sunday or Not Go To A UU Church on Easter Sunday…That Is The Question

•March 28, 2013 • 5 Comments

Lent is my favorite season of the liturgical year. Contemplation and sacrifice work for me.

Last year I needed an Easter sermon. Cancer was visiting the house (not me) and the message of overcoming anything was something I needed to hear. What I got was a sermon about butterflies–a waste of my time.

This year I don’t NEED an Easter sermon. Actually I would prefer a wilderness/Passover sermon. What I don’t want is a sermon about spring coming again; or bunny rabbits; or renewal.

So that makes me question whether I should bother with a UU church for Easter this year. Don’t get me wrong, I can appreciate a good sermon about flowers or butterflies or bunny rabbits or renewal. But not on Easter.

Why do most UU churches have no problem with doing a “Christmas” sermon, but have so many problems with an Easter sermon? What is it in UU-dom that is afraid of the darkness that Lent and Easter (and to a lesser extent Passover) represent?

To go to a UU church or not go to a UU church on Easter Sunday, that is the question.

One Year Ago Today Trayvon Martin Was Killed…..

•February 26, 2013 • 1 Comment

…..while walking home carrying a bag of Skittles and iced tea. I haven’t thought about anything the same way since. That includes Unitarian Universalism.

For years I thought it was odd that many of the conversations in the UU-universe were centered around how to reach out to marginalized people. Yet time after time, situation after situation would present itself as an opening into communities that UUism had traditionally ignored and time after time, UUs would run the opposite way. Is it really any wonder why UUism hasn’t made inroads into marginalized communities when you don’t speak to the issues that concern those communities?

So where does that leave me? I have no idea. But as I have for the second year in a row given up Unitarian Universalism for Lent, maybe I’ll have some answers come Easter.

How To Eulogize Someone Taken Senselessly?

•February 9, 2013 • 1 Comment

Hadiya Pendleton was laid to rest today. You might have heard of her. She was a 15-year-old Chicago girl who marched in the Inaugural Parade and 8 days later was shot to death in the park while waiting out a storm.

If you’ve been reading this blog at all over the last couple of months, you know that I’ve talked about how gun violence has been talked about when talking about Newtown and how different (or non-existent) that talk becomes when talking about urban America. While I can’t change how the media discussion of gun violence, I can try to talk about some things I’ve learned while trying to be a minister.

My internship supervisor told me, as I was preparing for my first eulogy, that my main goal should be to try to impart the gospel of the deceased person’s life. I’ve been thinking about that bit of wisdom since I heard of the death of Hadiya Pendleton.

How do you talk about the “good news” of a 15-year-old’s life when the only reason she is dead is because she was in the wrong place at the wrong time? How do you talk about the fact that, more than likely, she was shot to death by someone who was near to her in age? How do you talk about the fact that this is an all-too frequent occurence in urban America? How do you talk about the fact that there are millions of parents, siblings, other relatives and friends who pray every time their partner/child/sibling/relative/friend walks out the door that they will come back unharmed?

How do you talk about the fact that losing someone senselessly is not just about them dying; that 1/3 of all black men and 1/6 of all Latino men are involved with the criminal justice system? That young black and Latino children are placed in special education at disproportionate rates? That one of the leading causes of death for young men of color is gun homicide?

Hadiya Pendleton is the latest casualty in the senseless throwing away of urban America (which is primarily people of color). How does one eulogize that?

 

Today Is Trayvon Martin’s Birthday…And Here’s The Question….

•February 5, 2013 • Leave a Comment

….how many other black children have been shot and killed in the (almost) year since he was shot and killed?

Where is the national attention on that?

Martin Luther King Jr. Believed In Miracles. That’s Why He Wasn’t A Unitarian.

•January 22, 2013 • 10 Comments

Now that the weekend designated to whitewash MLK Jr. and the Civil Rights movement is over (thank goodness), I thought it was time to talk about some issues that don’t get talked about publicly much in UU churches.

Rev. Thomas Perchlik has written a post on his blog asking whether Dr. King was Unitarian. Read it, comment on it, think about it.

I’ve been thinking about this for a while now. But before I get into my thoughts on it, I think maybe it would be good to remember what Dr. King actually said on the subject of liberal religion:

There is one phase of liberalism that I hope to cherish always: its devotion to the search for truth, its refusal to abandon the best light of reason. . . It was . . . the liberal doctrine of man that I began to question. The more I observed the tragedies of history, and man’s shameful inclination to choose the low road, the more I came to see the depths and strength of sin. . . I came to feel that liberalism had been all too sentimental concerning human nature and that it leaned toward a false idealism. I also came to see that liberalism’s superficial optimism concerning human nature caused it to overlook the fact that reason is darkened by sin. . . Liberalism failed to see that reason by itself is little more than an instrument to justify man’s defensive ways of thinking. Reason, devoid of purifying power of faith, can never free itself from distortions and rationalizations.

So let’s say it out loud. No, Dr. King was NOT Unitarian; at least in the modern sense. And there is a reason for that.

There is a communal experience of G-d in the African American psyche that liberal religion has a hard time dealing with. It is an experience of G-d borne in slavery, matured through Jim Crow, and is redefining itself in the era of the new Jim Crow. While individual African Americans might have problems with G-d , there is a vocabulary that that communal experience gives which helps us navigate what can often be a very hostile world. [and before you write comments about African American humanists, I know they exist; they have always been around. But I should remind you that the uber-humanist, WEB DuBois, wrote a book of prayers]

This G-d is the G-d of liberation theology. And the G-d of liberation theology is a critique of the G-d of liberal theology. This is a G-d who suffers and weeps WITH its creation; a G-d that picks people up when they are down and broken; a G-d that provides manna when we are wandering in the wilderness. In other words, this is the G-d of “the least of these.” This is the G-d of the afflicted.

The G-d of the Unitarians (and Universalists to a much lesser extent), on the other hand, has mostly been the G-d of the comfortable. It’s easy to talk about “the free mind” when you are not somebody else’s property and under the constant threat of bodily violation.

Now, on Dr. King, there is a need for a little honesty here. And the truth is Dr. King wouldn’t have survived amongst Unitarians (and later Unitarian Universalists). First, his theology would have gotten him run out of most U/UU congregations of the time. But second, if history is anything to go by, his being African American would have been an equal stumbling block. What’s really sad is that, if we faced facts, both of those would still be issues. While things have gotten better, how much better have they really gotten?

4th Mass Shooting Since January 1st…Can We Have The Honest Conversation About Guns In The U.S. Now?

•January 22, 2013 • 3 Comments

There has been ANOTHER shooting at a school, this one at Lone Star College outside Houston.

Can we have the honest conversation that needs to happen about guns in the U.S. now?

Here are a few numbers…..in 2011:

32,163 people died because of guns

11,101 people died through gun homicide

19,766 people died through gun suicide

Now…to put this into a broader conversation….

India…a country of 1.1 billion people had a little over 6,000 total gun deaths in 2011, 3,200 of those were homicide

The only countries that had more gun homicides than the U.S. were Mexico (11,309), Brazil (34,678), Columbia (12,539), and Venezuela (11,115).

I think there is a component of this that is not discussed enough; every country that has a high gun homicide rate is somehow involved in the U.S. drug war (yes, Brazil is involved in the drug war, it’s just not talked about much). And if you added in the numbers for Guatemala (5,009) and Honduras (5,201), there is definitely a pattern.

So while Newtown “changed everything”, nothing changed. We continue to talk around guns (and drugs, to a lesser extent)  and focus on everything else.

Can we have the honest conversation about guns now?

 
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