I’ve been in some conversations lately about family ministry. The conversations have been interesting and timeful, but I’ve come out of them feeling uneasy.
In all of our UU talk of family ministry, are we implicitly telling those who are uncoupled and/or don’t have children that they are unnecessary to the church? In less complicated words…do single people and/or those who are child-free matter to UU churches?
Don’t get me wrong…I think family ministry is important. But does the church (and by this I mean all churches, not just UU churches), by focusing so much on ‘building strong families’ or ‘enriching families’, tell those who not coupled and/or don’t have children that they are somehow less-than…not worthy of being ministered to?
How many UU churches have a really vibrant Singles ministry? (and don’t tell me about your young adult ministry, that’s not the same thing and not what I’m talking about) Where is the Couples ministry in a/any UU church? Ministries for those who have lost a partner?
What is the UU definition of family? Who are we excluding by that definition?